To change or not to change?

I've been thinking a lot lately about a friend who is trying to decide whether to date or not to date certain people. My feeling is this: If you know what qualities you desire in a person that you would potentially spend the rest of your life with, don't waste your time on those who do not have those qualities you desire. This thinking may seem a bit harsh toward those who think they reserve the right for someone to give them a chance, get to know them before discounting them, however, life is too short to be wasting time on someone who clearly doesn't have what you want. A person might say, " I can change into what you want." " I can quit smoking and drinking." " I can be a nice person." "I can learn to be compassionate." The truth is a person cannot change his character and should never try to change his behaviors just for the purpose of trying to attract a certain kind of person. A person can be introspective and try to see where he needs to make changes within himself for himself. If a person, for instance, is not by nature a kind and considerate person and discovers its something he really wants to change about himself, by all means give it a go. But, if its not in his nature and he is constantly battling with himself to exhibit this kind of character, over timie it becomes too difficult to continue the lie. So I say know what you want in a life partner and stick with it. Become the person YOU want to be, the person you know you should be for you! :)

reminiscence

Remininscence. Its a noun that means: 1.the act or process of recalling past experiences, events, etc. 2. a mental impression retained and revived 3. something that recalls or suggests something else. But as I was walking through the grocery store today I observed and old woman pick up an old style glass bottle of Coke, which , of course is a rather uncommon item on the shelf these days. She held it and looked it over before she placed it and three more bottles of it into her cart. I began to wonder just what she was reminiscing about. I could tell for sure that she was considering something in the past, some memory that this old- fashioned glass bottle of Coke was invoking. I was standing there doing the same thing. What it was she was remembering I will never know, but I do know we all do it. The images are different for each of us, even if its the same event that we are remembering. There are some things, a song, a scent, an object, that none of us can walk past without those memories coming back. The memory might be different for each of us, but it brings people together and reminds us that we are human and have many things in common.

Student Veterans Resource Center

These are images of the inside and outside of the newest addition to campus, the Student Veterans Resource Center. This facility meets the needs of many of the student veterans on campus by helping them to stay connected to each other, being able to have a safe place to share their experiences and to just hang out together. It gives the student veteran population access to many of the things they need such as moral support, help with financial aid, social programs etc.

The students that I have encountered who use the facility are some of the nicest and most respectful people I have ever met.

Christmas Table

This is a picture of our beautiful Christmas table.

The glass bulb thing has a lid on it and we have been using it as a cookie jar and candy dish--- neither lasts long in our house since the cookies that sissy bakes are delicious and Spence and Curt are candy monsters, but it is a cute thing to have on the table. It was a little lonely with just the bulb thing til grandma gave us a wonderful poinsettia. this is the only time of year when the table stays mostly clutter- free, so I decided to take a picture to remind me of what it looks like.

Don't Procrastinate!

OK- So I have procrastinated writing my blog since June apparently. How lazy does that seem? Actually, I have been very busy. I flew out to California in July and drove home with my sister. She is now sharing a house with my mother. But the whole thing has involved a lot of work and moving 3000 miles across the country has been no easy task. The drive alone was menacing and I hoped to keep eveyrone informed the whole way home, but that didn't work out. And now, with fall here, we have been cleaning out and reorganizing basements and garages. At any rate, everything is getting shaped up for the holidays. I am looking forward to spending Thanksgiving, Birhtdays and Christmas together with my mom and sister after many years of being seperated. It will be awesome to prepare the meals together and to have a cake together for our birthdays. I can't wait.

Hot and Humid!

Ok- so we were all sick of the cold dreary weather, but who asked for this! This is not nice weather! No one can convince me that its nice weather! Its not really even good for going to the beach, and now we are sure to have some wicked storms coming our way. Hang on Beecher, this could be the year you are hit with another devistating tornado! (I hope not)

Sick

I was completely out of commission last week. I only went to work because I had to, but ended up going to the doctor to find I had a lung infection of some kind or another. Antibiotics. Cough, cough, cough!!!! thought I was going to die! It seems I'm sick less often, but VERY sick when I do get sick. I thought I might go back to singing again, but whats the point when most of the time I can't get a good breath. I guess thats what they mean by "use it or lose it"! My singing was my greatest pleasure. I don't seem to have a lot of pleasures left these days. Guess I'll have to be satisfied with the fact that the kids are all well and growing.